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The divorce of couples or marriages with children can be very painful and traumatic, disrupting harmony and balance in the family, and according to experts, causes emotional instability in children and adolescents.
Separation is one of the most distressing moments, the children have the feeling that they will be abandoned or unloved by one of the two parents, and this affects their mental health, especially if they are at a very young age and cannot understand or assimilate the reasons why their parents are divorcing.
The family nucleus or home is the safest place that a human being can have, it is where their first relationship with the world comes from and the main foundations for the development of their environment are the parents, therefore For many people, already in their adulthood, it is difficult to overcome the separation of their parents, and they require therapy to do so.
The most common feelings of a child with divorced parents They are:
First of all, children feel concern about the situation, Seeing that their family will not be like before, uncertainty and anxiety about the future arise in them. In addition, they often have feelings of guilt, not understanding what is happening, they may feel that they are responsible for their parents’ divorce.
The new routines of separated parents, together with the agreements for visits and others, they can make children feel rejected and less important than before, this affects their self-esteem in the futuresince they believe that they are not enough for their parents and that is why they replace them, as indicated by an investigation carried out in the department of psychiatry of the Faculty of Medicine of the University of Chile.
About to see hostility and lack of communication between parents, children can have this behavior learned in their childhoodwhich they will repeat later in adolescence and adulthood, believing that this is the most appropriate language to solve problems, obviously this will affect relationships with their environment in the future.
If for the couple, the breakup can feel like a duel, for children too this feeling of loss is real And when people are going through these kinds of situations, they can feel a lot of sadness, depression, anger or rage depending on how their brain reacts to stimuli.
To resolve this situation together with the children, It is best to take some time and explain as many times as necessary the reasons why the parents separatemake them feel that they will not be alone and that they will not stop being loved either, a good way to carry this out is to consult with specialists who give the necessary tools and support in the process, since the children also suffer the separations of the parents.
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