Chiquis Rivera launches her third book ‘Invincible’, and in an interview, she confesses that the hardest thing for her to write was what the led to depression: the wedding, the divorce, and the sexual rejection of her still husband, Lorenzo Méndez.
In this book, which took 3 years to write, Chiquis recounts, clarifies, confesses and reveals everything: the money she doesn’t have, her relationship with Ángel, the man her mother Jenni Rivera did not want; the relationship with Lorenzo Méndez that came to save her, but her husband’s drug and alcohol addictions, physical violence, and sexual rejection ended up sinking her into depression. Mr Tempo, his brothers, his uncles and reassembling his pieces until he became ‘invincible’…
Then an intimate chat with the woman who looks into the eyes, because he no longer has anything to hide.
-For those who they don’t know your life, it seems like a novel, for those of us who know it, ‘Invincible’ is like reading your personal diary…
Chiquis Rivera: I feel very happy, liberated, calm in my heart… I know that perhaps it is like reopening certain wounds, certain things that have happened, that perhaps many people has forgotten, and for me too. By writing this book it was a form of therapy, it helped me to heal many things, it took almost 3 years to write it… All the past is left behind, it stays in this book, I feel like I don’t have to carry that anymore. For those who are interested in knowing certain things, it’s just gossip, or to clarify, there is much more to this book, it is to be able to inspire and empower, and hopefully help people who have gone through the things that I have gone through, and cannot find exit.
-When you launched ‘Forgiveness’ and I interviewed you, you used that same word ‘release’, but in this book you also talk about disappointment, rejection, do you feel that Did you really learn this today?
Chiquis Rivera: Yes, I already feel capable, accomplished, I feel like a woman. It was necessary to go through certain things to get to this point. This book begins where ‘Perdón’ ended, my first book, and what has happened in these 7 years, I am a public figure, through my social networks, through my music, I have shared a lot about myself, about my life , but I also think that this is a way of explaining things in more detail, I want through my experiences to help others, I feel that more than anything it is my mission. I do feel different, I feel capable, and now I do feel like I have my ovaries here in my hand.
-How do you feel ‘Invincible’ after What does this liberating son come from?
Chiquis Rivera: I feel invincible to be able to fulfill my dreams, to really face whatever comes next, especially because Johnny is going to be 21 years old (his younger brother , whose tutor she is), I already feel like I can do what I want… With my music now I feel much more secure, so in that aspect I can say that I feel invincible, free , I have nothing to hide that more than anything, now whatever comes, whatever is said I can face it without worrying.
-In addition to liberation and help, it is a book of clarifications: of your relationship with Ángel, then with Lorenzo Méndez, Mr. Tempo, your brothers, your uncles…
Chiquis Rivera: Everything is in he in the same book, and I did feel it was necessary because for 2 years I didn’t clarify, I kept quiet. I said to myself: “I don’t want to make this much bigger, I’m going to write it down, leave it there for those who are interested”… I want women, even men, to be able to learn and not make the same mistakes, because I I looked at certain red lights, that I talk about the red flags, that I ignored them, and well I said, “Wait for me, one can avoid this”. Like sometimes we attract those same problems that come from not being more assertive. So if I talk about everything, I felt that it was necessary to clarify it, especially with the people who follow me, who listen to my music, so that they know the truth, I think that by remaining silent one becomes another victim, and I also say the mistakes I made, that now I want to be different in all aspects.
-Have you shared the book with those people you name as an Angel, Lorenzo, your uncles, your brothers?
Chiquis Rivera: Johnny was the only one who read the book, he is always very attentive and very interested in everything I do, and he gave I the chapters, even in fact, when I talked a little about him, about what I went through with him in certain years of his life that were very difficult . He started crying and said: “Wow, I forgot that I put you through all this”… Because he was reading everything with me and I said, do you want me to remove something?, and he said, “No, it’s the truth”. And well, well, from then on I didn’t share it with anyone, I didn’t feel it was necessary… I’m not afraid because everything I said is true, I have witnesses, the truth is I’m not afraid , because he who owes something is afraid of something, and well, they’re also going to realize it, they already know it, because they also know it’s the truth, whether they want to accept it or not everything I say in this book is 100% the truth.
– What is the chapter that cost you the most to write?
Chiquis Rivera: The one of my wedding, of my separation, the most difficult. I would write it, I would leave it for a few weeks… I thought many times, I’ll take this away, I won’t say this, but it was a big part of my life, and a big part of a depression that was also in the book that I passed on and it has helped a lot. I don’t regret getting married, I don’t regret what happened, because everything happened as it should happen, what had to happen happened, but it was very difficult, it was a very difficult moment for me when writing it.
-You talk a lot about red lights, how do you differentiate the instinct not to commit something that could be a mistake in the future, fear?
Chiquis Rivera: I think that being afraid is a little more here in the chest, and having that instinct is more in the stomach. When one asks: do you have peace with that decision?, if it is the answer is “no”, you do not have to continue with this decision. If I am afraid, but I am at peace, when one has confidence, this is it, it is a red light, but there are things that we have to do with fear. Sometimes I am afraid to go on a big stage, but I am going to use that fear to give the best of me… You have to ask yourself.
-You have always been very open, interviews, reality, autobiographical and descriptive books, how to close the door when it is always so open?
Chiquis Rivera: Wow… For a long time I did feel, they made me feel: this is the career you chose, no way… But I have learned that I am also a human being, that I do deserve to keep certain things to myself. Now I do my best not to make the same mistakes, I know where I can go and where I shouldn’t to be a little calmer. I don’t necessarily have to share everything, I’m going to share what I want, what I want people to see, I’m also a woman and I deserve that. For a long time I didn’t feel like this. I think it’s going to take a bit of time, they say to me: “ How do you want to keep yourself or your relationship so private if you were the usual thing before?” Precisely for that! because I learned the lesson.
-You have had to deal with many losses in your life, and you talk about them in the book, and you say that a your refuge is your grandmother, who is not here today, they are estranged, how do you deal with that?
Chiquis Rivera: My grandmother is and always will be a big part of the woman I am, I love her very much, I miss her very much, unfortunately things happened. I would have liked things to be different, I understand her, she has to be with her children . For a while I didn’t understand it, now I have to understand, and I know that she understands that I also have to be with my children, who are my brothers, because they don’t have their mother, they don’t have their father but they have their sister… Right now I think that the mistake that many of us make or make as a family, in any relationship, is not to talk, it’s important to talk, speaking, people understand each other, asking, not assuming, and I think that’s what happened. Right now there is no communication, it is mutual not to have that communication, I think that right now we are fine like this, I pray to God every day for her, for my family, but right now I think we are calmer and at peace that way.
-In the account book you had a scene of sexual rejection by your husband, Lorenzo Méndez, how did you deal with that and love yourself as a woman again?
Chiquis Rivera: That was very difficult. I had to cry for him, and see myself in the mirror and say nice things to myself: “you know what? I like your smile, I like the color of your eyes”… Tell me things that really I like myself, because for a long time I didn’t want to look at myself in the mirror, I was like I’m not attractive anymore… Wait for me, I’m not going to let a person make me feel like that, I have to love myself, I had to go back to that because I did feel I love myself, I love myself, I like myself, but then something comes along and knocks you down. You have to pick up the little pieces and fill me up, fill me up with positivity, with light, but it does take time. Let’s not let one person have so much power over us, that’s very important.
-When the person who buys ‘Invencibe’ is in front of your book, what would you like them to think or feel?
Chiquis Rivera: I want the people who read this book to say: “ Wow, if she went through all this and continues with a smile, and stays positive, I can too”… I know that I am not the only one who has gone through this, yes I am very open, very transparent , some may see it as bad, that it is something negative, but I really feel that it is part of my mission, and I want the people who read this book to say that if they are in a relationship that is toxic media that they know and that they have the strength to say, this is no longer good for me, I am seeing some things that Chiquis is saying, and I hope they have also the strength, that I give them the strength to get out of that situation, and that they say, well, if she could do it, I can too, I’m also invincible.
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